Self-care always sounds so fuckin amazing and relaxing until it comes time to do it. Then it can become more of a hassle. Mostly because you run outta time. So how can you fit this amazing thing into your life? It’s super easy- cause you’re probably already doing it!
Dictionary.com defines self-care as:
the act of attending to one’s physical or mental health, generally without medical or other professional consultation (often used attributively):
the products or practices used to comfort or soothe oneself (often used attributively)
Basically, self-care is the actions and intentions that we set to protect and enhance our health and wellness.
It’s making a point to get that bath in tonight, or making time to exercise because it makes you feel good.. It’s the little things and the intentions that we set that help us to take care of ourselves.
Self-care can be emotional, physical, mental, spiritual, or social. You don’t have to do all of these every week, or even every month. Just make sure that you try to do something from each category- on occasion.
Social Self Care
Social self-care is spending time with others. We as humans are social creatures and without contact and communication with others of our kind, we get lonely and it impacts other facets of our lives. Try incorporating some of the idea below into your weekly/daily routines:
- Go out with friends or family for the day
- Spend time with a loved one
- Call an old friend or a new one
- Compliment someone
- Hug someone you care about
- Visit your parents or grand parents
- Workout with a friend or loved one
- Have lunch with your coworkers
- Tell someone what you appreciate about them
Spiritual Self Care
Spiritual self-care is having a relationship with something bigger than yourself. This doesn’t have to be God, or any specific religious idol, just a connection with something.. Maybe the Universe or Mother Nature. Having a belief in something bigger than yourself can relieve some of the burden on you because you feel that you are not alone and that something.. Somewhere is able to help and guide you.
- Get outside in nature
- Use essential oils and candles to create a calming ambience
- Set up positive quotes to be sent to your phone randomly
- Relax over a cup of tea
Mental Self Care
Mental self-care challenges you and stimulates your brain more than the mundane daily thoughts. It’s more than worrying, it’s something that makes you pay attention and use your brain, but at the same time it can be calming and almost meditative.
- Curl up with a good book
- Create a to-do list
- Complete one of your tasks from the above to –do list
- Take a short nap to refresh your mind
- Listen to music while you do things around the house
- Netflix and Chill (maybe with popcorn??)
- Declutter something- a clean space makes us feel better
- Find a hobby
Physical Self Care
Physical self-care is probably the easiest for ideas because you hear about it all the time. It’s taking care of your body. Making sure that your body has what it needs to continue to function and thrive is the best form of self-care.
- Movement in general
- Eat your veggies
- Drink enough water
- Get a massage
- Skip the alcohol when you go out
- Get your nails done or paint them at home
- Take a bath
- Take a long nap to refresh your body
What does your routine look like? What self-care actions do you take daily or weekly to make yourself feel good?
My Self Care Routine
Everyone should have a nightly self-care routine and hopefully a morning one too. I always see posts on Pinterest about having the best morning routine and how it sets the tone for you day, but I feel people forget about their nightly routine.
Your nightly routine can be just as important as your morning routine, if not more. Your nightly routine sets you up to get the best sleep that you can, which will impact your morning and your day quite a bit.
I talked about self-care in a previous post that you can check out here. Here is how I put that into actionable items that help me feel great everyday.
My Nightly Routine:
I have a very specific nightly routine and find that when I don’t complete my routine I don’t sleep as well, I don’t feel as rested in the morning and I’m more cranky the next day…
My routine typically starts when I get home from work (yes, I still work a 9-5.. or 7:30-4:30) it can start later for you but I like to make sure that when I am home, I am doing things that not only need to get done, but also lift me up and show myself that I care about me.
I typically complete the following self care nightly:
- Workout of sorts. Sometimes this is a weight lifting sesh, yoga or an relaxing bike ride with my hubby
- Get some blogging/YouTube work done- if you haven’t checked out my YouTube yet, subscribe and stay tuned for some awesome upcoming content!
- Watch TV + play New World ( psttt…it’s a computer game) with my husband
- Cook and have a healthy dinner (sometimes healthy means comfort food)
Then I have my bedtime routine.. this is something that is almost non-negotiable. It’s something that I will complete pretty much no matter what before bed.
- Yoga while listening to calming music (I like the Relaxing Melodies App and the Beatfulness App)
- Mediate- I typically only use the Beatfullness app to listen to music or sometimes I will find a YouTube meditation to use. Yoga Nidra is great to do too!
- (optional) Read a bit when I get in bed- this sometimes doesn’t happen because I am just too tired to focus.
My Morning Routine:
My morning routine is nothing to brag about, but it’s practical and it’s not about getting up before the sun to feel productive. Yes, I am more of a morning person, but I think it’s more of a late morning person thing for me.. not the 5 am it’s still dark out. I like to get things done when the sun is out and it’s bright out. The sunlight just seems to make everything better, and happier.
So my typical morning routine looks something like this:
Get up about 6 am, get ready, and head downstairs
Feed and walk the dog (sometimes I do this barefoot to get some Earth time in)
Pack my lunch and make my tea
Sit for a few minutes and meditate, if I’m being good that morning, or scroll through Instagram if not. This meditation is a breath mediation where I just sit and notice my breath.
On the way to work, I make sure that I am not zoning out and wasting time. I listen to inspiring or educational podcasts to stay in the loop about things and get my learn on! After so many years of listening to podcasts and sometimes books, which you can get a ton of for free from your library and an app called Overdrive.
When I get to work, it’s typically 15-20 minutes early. I like to take this quiet time to get a few minutes of reading done in a self growth book, do a quick tarot spread for myself if needed, or I will sit and take a longer meditation.
When I read and meditate, I notice the benefits all day long. I am happier and more motivated and my brain just seems to work better.